Attached to the bloom was a small card with the sweetest message, and it reminded me of how lucky I am to hold this knight’s heart in mine even when we’re miles and kingdoms apart most of the time.
Long-distance, isn’t easy. To say the very least. It’s for the most driven of hearts, the most ardent and fervent of lovers. Most of us come across it simply by circumstance, but it is in the end, still a choice to made, a step to be taken. And a gargantuan one at that.
I honestly never thought I’d one day be a strong purveyor of long-distance relationships. But here I am, some number of years later, advocating – if not encouraging – such a notion. Not only do I see such relationships as very much possible with regards to their survivability, but also very, very possible when it comes to the idea of flourishing. And if and when it does, it exudes a certain, and may I say, acquired beauty so incredibly breathtaking that you’d be an absolute fool to give it all up.
Yes, it is in all ways challenging, and can be an extremely difficult feat to triumph in, but you find yourself growing in ways you never imagined, in ways that no non-long-distance relationship can ever hope to achieve. Not necessarily better or worse, but different. And in all aspects, beautiful.
To each his or her own, of course. I’m not actually saying I’d still choose long-distance over close proximity should the option with my lover arise. What I am saying, rather, is that if you happen to be in one, instead of seeing it as something to tolerate and overcome whilst anticipating the day you get to rendezvous with your lover again, learn to make something amazing out of it. Enjoy it, embrace it, relish in the beauty and colour it brings into your world.
In the past three years, the beau and I have spent four Valentines together. Four simply because our first marked the start of something very significant for us. Four Valentines, and never once were we physically together on the day itself to celebrate. Timing, is something you’ve to learn to accept and embrace whilst being in a long-distance relationship – there will inevitably be days where you find yourselves faced with the inability to be together, no matter how much you try to fight it. And it’s perfectly fine, because you learn to adapt, to look past such days and celebrate them regardless – be it belatedly or priorly – without any reservation or booking issues whatsoever (yay). Cherry on top, just so you know.
And in these three wonderful years of being in an intercontinental/international/and now interstate relationship, there have been countless messages such as this – beautifully done masterpieces curated to an exquisite degree to surprise and delight each other. It’s something that happened to evolve ever so naturally between us, and has now grown to be a means of expression and artistry. And amongst those digital pages are handwritten letters, heartfelt and passionate, sent carefully from inbox to inbox, telling stories, feelings, desires. And the magnificent part, is seeing it grow throughout the years.
So for those who celebrated this Valentine’s over a Skype call and a glass of wine on either side of the screen, this is for you. You’re beautiful.